Should a 14-year-old mother keep her baby?

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This is a very hard decision to make. It depends alot on your mindset. I was 15 when I got pregnant. I kept the baby. She is now 17 and has moved out and gotten her GED. Sometimes I wonder if she would've succeeded better in school had I not been so young and been able to guide her better. There are alot of things I thought I knew at your age that in all reality, only time could teach me. If you think you can give up life as a teenager and devote your time and love to the baby, then you should keep the child. A child will make you feel the best and worst you have ever felt in your life. Please put alot of thought into this; playtime will be over and adult life will be there overnight.

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• Hey well you are probably going through a hard time right know but listen up if your family loved you it would'nt matter what they thought! Just do what is right for you i mean keep the baby because you never know if you will ever have another the same as the first. well i am 16 years old ok i almost had one my self and i made stupid decission!

• I am a 21 year old mother of two, and I would like to say that if you are old enough to make a baby, you are old enough to take care of it. I know from experience that it is very hard, even with someone to help you, but BELIEVE IT CAN BE DONE! I am proof. I had my son 4 days before my 18th birthday. I am currently pregnat with my second child. I graduated high school and I am currently enrolled in college. Mistakes are made daily baby, all you can do is keep your head up, and if you want to keep this child, do the very best you can to be the best you can for your family. I don't believe in abortion and to be honest, it would be very hard for you to carry a child 9 months and then give it up for adoption. But ultimately the choice is yours. whatevery you decide will stick with you and YOU will have to live with the decision.

• A fourteen year old should never have to worry about whether she should keep her baby or not. She shouldn't even have a to worry. It would break my heart if my daughter or niece got pregnant at such a young age, I would feel like I had done a miserable job as a parent. But I could never turn my back on a child who desperately needs help, especially my own. But I really don't believe a 14 year old is mature enough to make the decision whether or not she should keep her baby. Anyone who is not mature enough to think about using contraceptives, is certainly not mature enough to be having sex -- no matter how old you are -- let alone mature enough to raise a child.

• Hi im 14 yrs old and if i were to get pregnant i would keep my baby, i would not give it up for adoption because i wouldnt want my baby calling someone else "mommy" instead of me you see what im saying. if you are pregnant KEEP YOUR BABY NO MATTER WHAT ANY ONE SAYS!!

• I think you should keep your baby. I was 16 when I got pregnant. I did not tell anyone until I was 7 months pregnant. I was scared and my boyfriend and i were fighting all the time. Now I would not change it for the world. I choose to keep my baby and now he is the love of my life. I think you are old enough to make a decision. I also think what you choose will be the right one. Being a mother is a wonderful experience. I just wish i would have waited. I would keep the baby if you think that is in the right interest for the baby.

• Ok..this is a very hard subject. A 14 year old is just that..a 14 year old. She can look older, or she can look still like a child, but no matter what..she is still just a 14 year old in the mind.

That being said, there are exceptions to every rule. Where I come from, girls get married really young. Some as young as 13. My very own cousin was almost 14 when she got married. By the time she had a child, she was 14, she turned 15 2 monthe before her son's birth. She was, and still is to this day, a very smart, intelligent woman. No one could ever accuse her of not being the best mother on this planet.

• I think that you should do what you want keep the baby if your dad and mom dont like it move out and live with your baby's dad

• I am 15 and i thought i was pregnant too so i told my mom and she was there for me she got me the test and stuck by me but she told me that i had to give it up but i told her that i wanted to keep it and well she wasnt a happy camper and i told her that i wanted it she said fine but it turned out that i wasn't pregnant so but hunny i would not give that baby up for nothing and u are the one who made the decision and sooo u should take the responsibility to do this.

• If you are, keep it, it could be the only chance you get. There is no way I would give up a baby. We girls are so lucky to be able to have babies so don't ever waste that!

• Hey,um see i knew a 13 yr. old that was pregnant.She died because she was not even old enough to handle it.Her baby lived but with down sydrome and it was deaf.See its just to painful to go through it. i know its an innocent baby but what life will it have on earth with a 14 yr. old mother?? for better or worse i wish you luck bye

• As others have said - I am the mother of teenage girls (one 17 & one 14). If one of mine came telling me they were pregnant I would gladly help them out Luckily I have done well so far -My 14 year old has a 6 month baby My 17 year old has a 5 year old,right now she is college bound, wanting to be a doctor! To give the baby up for adoption is a very irresponsible decision, and it is selfish, not thinking of yourself but what is best for the baby. A baby deserves to be with their mother. For the birth mother keeping the baby would be the hardest act of selflessness they could have, and the strongest amount of love too. I myself was raised by teen parents.I think they did a wonderful job. I myself had a baby at 12,I have also told my daughters, that if they think they are old enough to dance then they should be old enough to handle the responsiblity on their own. I am not a free ride, so therefore they better figure up what it would cost to keep the baby & live on their own. I actually did this just for fun estimate on what it would take to make it as a teen mother.It was really not too much especially if you get financial help from the state.

• I cannot argue with your experience, nor do I wish to, but I have some first hand experience from another point of view that may also be of value to some one trying to make such a difficult decision. I've delivered numerous young teen moms and several of them have chosen to give up their baby for adoption. This wasn't an easy decision, and they had to come to it on their own. Nevertheless, all of those who made this decision, at least in my experience, were very happy that they did so. They explained it to me as their doing what they felt was in the baby's best interest, putting their feeling at the time aside. I cannot imagine how difficult this desicion must have been, but I guess I wouldn't say that it is "irresponsible" to make such a choice. It's an individual's decision that must be made carefully and prayerfully. Should a teem mom choose to keep her child, great! It just means some important adjustments must be made for a time, and help must be given by others for a time. The bottom line seems to be, is it best for the baby? This isn't said with lack of consideration for the mom...hardly. But the baby has no say in the matter, so its mother must make the best decision for all... God bless all moms!

• hiya i am 14 years old and if i was having a baby i would keep it because i feel like i am ready but even if i wasnt i would still keep it. because it is an other body in side of ya.

• Just remember it`s your decision. Don`t let your mother tell you no you can`t. Youre going to have to carry this child for 9 months. Therefore, you, not your mother or father should have the decision to deny you of that child. This child is yours not anyone else's. Ask your parents whether they would agree to help raise her. You still have to go to school and if you don`t and focus all your energy on the baby then your future and the child`s will be horrid. If they refuse to help then it is best to give up the child. Remember fight for your right to be a mother! THIS IS YOUR CHILD! NOT YOUR PARENTS!

• I'm 33 years old and I have a baby. My husband and I had a very hard time with adjusting to life with the baby, it's very hard work and exhausting. We are financially secure, educated and mature enough to handle our precious little guy. We don't get much sleep, we don't eat as well as we used to, we are lucky if we can take showers. This is a huge responsbility, and we love our son with all our hearts and we are truly blessed to have him. But, it's very hard work. My 15 year old neice has just announced that she is pregnant and she is keeping it. She does not know who the father is and plans on raising him by herself. She does not have a job, she has not finished 10th grade, her mother can barely pay the rent every month, and her dad is not in the picture.

I've been feeling sick since the day I found out. I'm not happy for her.I feel sad for the baby. I can't accept the fact that my neice is going to raise a baby on her own - love is not always enough. YOu need more than just love. Love doesn't pay the mortgage, or put food on the table. I don't know how she is going to care for the baby 24 hours without getting a break. I hope she doesn't end up neglecting the baby. I am fearful she may hurt the baby out of frustration and tiredness. I don't think she can handle going months without normal sleep. I can't help her because I have my baby and another son. I can't believe she did this to herself. I don't think she should keep the baby - I don't think it's fair to the baby to have a mother like this. It's very scary. This is why I just stay away. I can't handle watching this happen to an innocent baby. A child having a baby. These young girls think it's cool to have a baby of their own -- Being in labor is not enjoyable, what your body goes through is very painful. Emotionally and physically after giving birth is not a great experience. You're tired and you just want to sleep - no more sleeping child. Raising a baby is not always sunshine. It's work. You will worry about this child for the rest of your life now.... it's a huge committment.

• I was 14 when i found out i was pregnant the only people i told was the babys dad who was 16 and my bestfriend i was really scared about telling my mum i never spoke 2 my dad so it wasnt that bad.

I was 5 months pregnant when i told my mum she was upset that i didnt tell her sooner but she stuck by me

I gave birth 3 months ago 2 a lovely baby girl we named her Molly-May shes lovely i wouldnt change 1 think about her

I had 2 leave school but a have a tutor come round 3 times a week so im gettin bk on track now my boyfriend stuck by me every step of the way im now 15 and Molly and Lee are the loves of my life i wouldnt change them 4 the world

so if you ask me if a 14 year old should keep her baby then the answer is YES of course she should if you can deal with the sleepless nights and the labour then go 4 it girl dont let any1 tell u different

• I'm trying to understand this all myself, even though I was 15 when I got preg., and 16 when I had my Joseph. I'm 40 now and he is 24 I did not get married to Mike his dad, because he wanted to marry me only to give the baby his last name. We were the best friends before we conceived, but afterwords, he left me. I ended up telling my parents when I was 7 months along. I didn't know what to do so I just denied it was happening altogether.

In my family sex was a dirty word, I didn't want to have sex (intercourse) sex at the time, he talked me into it. It hurt really bad, and I didn't like it at all. What do you know, I got preg., and then didn't know what to do. I was married to another guy when I turned 18, just to get out of the house. I had my second child at 20. If I knew then, what I know now I would have aborted my preg., gone to college and waited to have my two wonderfull boys when I was in my early thirties.

I ended up going back home to raise my two boys when I was divorced for the third time. I had to finally stay single without having sex for almost 8 years to finish raising my boys with the help of everyone in my family. It has be hard for all of us but we managed. My story is one of those stories you just don't want to be the star of. I love both my boys, but they were the ones who have had to suffer more, then me. They had to have a teen mom who most of the time was unhappy and didn't know what to do. I was always getting cheated on by every man I ever loved. Guess what men cheat! That is a FACT! If you cannot get up and get your child ready to go to a sitter, childcare, so you can work and bring home enough money to pay your rent, electric, water, phone and have reliable transportation, put food on the table and have the best cloths for your new baby and yourself, then you are not old enough to bare or deliver a child into this world. Oh and there are so many more unexpected expenses that I can't even mention them all....

I wish you were old enough to think about all that before you even try to have sex with anyone. I didn't think at all. I wish I did! Sex can be a beautiful adventure, but having a baby is hard work. You can forget about sex during the years of raising your children! Unless you have it all planned out before hand. Even then, the unexpected can come by to bring the party down.

My son just told me he got his 17 year old girlfriend preg., I'm still in SHOCK! Babies ARE LIFE'RS, HE WANTS ME TO BE HAPPY FOR HIM, he is twenty. He has no job, hasn't finished high school yet and really has no future at this point. I want her to abort and stay together and learn from their mistake. They are currently in school trying to both finish high school and drive around in a car that is falling apart, no ac it is HOT IN az. You think you are ready for all this at 14? I know you're not. I wasn't she isn't and no one is at 14. You are not even old enough to take care of yourself!

• Well I got pregnant at 13 and I kept my beautiful baby girl! Her name is Jacinta, I am now 17 almost 18 and let me tell you, I would not recommend a young girl like yourself keeping your baby. It has been the hardest thing I have ever had to do. I had to quit school so now I am 2 years behind and I will not be graduating with my friends! I suggest putting him/her up for adoption OR a really good option if giving "custody" of him/her to a family member who would like a child and when it is old enough to understand explain to him/her that you are their mother and when you are finished with your schooling or at least a little older than you can decide what to do, there is plenty of time to have kids! I have 2 kids and another on the way and I am happy but not, once I had Jacinta I was kinda of depressed but I loved her and couldn't give her up! My second child's name is Tannor, he is only 8 months old, he is adorable! But I live with my boyfriend/finacee, we have been together since I was 12 we are very much in love, I work full time now! We are getting married soon! If you have no idea who the father is or if the father wants nothing to do with him/her than that makes it even worse for your child! Do yourself and your child a favor, if you love your "un"born child then do not keep it, it will be too hard on you and that will rub off on him/her! It is hard to explain, but you will not be able to handle it at that age, and you need to be available 24/7 for your child, always aware and such! Just remember I have been there done that.

• I think that you need to look at all factors before deciding on abortion, adoption or parenting.

I am a 19 year old college sophomore. I graduated in the top 20% of my high school class with a 3.7 GPA. I am getting a degree in Child Psychology with an emphasis on behavioral analysis and in three years, I will be working one on one with children with autism. I rent a nice house and I own my own car. I work 40 hours a week in addition to being a full time student.

I'm also a mother. I had my daughter Kallyn when I was 14, right at the beginning of my freshman year of high school. She will be five October 5th of this year. She has not hindered my progress one bit...I knew what I wanted from life and she was simply a bonus, not a drawback. My fiance is 21 and his daughter just turned three. The four of us have made a family and while we are not a typical family, we do our best and we are fine. Having a baby is not a death sentance, nor is it an excuse to drop out of school, quit your job and live in poverty. If you are pregnant, I wish you the best of luck. Feel free to email me if you want to talk.

• me personaly i think that the baby should be kept by her mother if she can raise this chid.if not the person should give the baby up for adopation but what ever anybody do do get an aborsion.

• Well, im 15 now and I have a baby girl of only 2 months and let me tell you its really hard keeping up, but nothing could more wonderful than to see a little piece of you in your arms, but in the same time you feel like craying when the baby cryies, but if you're a 14 year old and you think or are pregnet you should keep the baby because if you think about it its not the babies fult its only yours and the daddies fult. So for all you 14 year olds keep your baby I'm not gonna lie and tell you its an easy job because its not, but just try to keep up with the baby and everything will go smoothly. So good luck to all you 14 year old that think or are pregnet.

• Im 14 and i have a baby boy called Dylan and his 3 months old. He is the love of my life and im glad i didnt give him up for adoption. He is a little angel and i could never live without him. Its hard being young but i have 4 older sisters who all help me out when i need it. My perants where very disapionted in me but they got over it bacause there was nothing they could do to make it go away, in the end support me in my decision on keeeping him. I your pregnant and can offer your baby a safe and stable life then by all meens keeping your baby.

• I think that the decision is entirely up to you. Personally I would never give up my own child for adoption. Just think that you'll never see your baby like EVER again and he/she will be calling mommy another woman. That would absolutely break my heart.

But on the other hand you're only 14 years old. It's difficult raising a child being an adult married woman, let along being a teenager and alone. So if you want to keep the child keep in mind that it's though and you'll have to make lots of sacrifices. If you are willing to do that and work really hard to give your baby a decent upbringing I suggest you keep the baby.

If you're not maybe you really should give adoption a serious for your baby's seek. Good luck! And one last thing... talk to an adult you trust and who can help

• I am 14 years old and think I am 6 weeks pregnant.Me and my boyfriend felt like we were ready to have sex a month and a half ago.My first signs of pregnancy was missing my period (of course). Second my breast started feeling sore and I was having morniing sickness.I told my mom.She bought me some pregnancy tests.They both came out positive. She was upset at first but she was pretty understanding. Shes upset about being a 32 year old grandma.Yes a 32 year old grandma. She got pregnant with my 15 year old sister when she was 15.She was taken away and adopted by a nice family.I stiLl need to go to the clinic to know for sure.You know how those "home pregnancy tests" are Through this all I know my mom wil be here for me.

If you want your baby you should keep it,but make sure you have someone to help you take care of him/her. I am lucky I have my mom and my boyfriend who has a job. Whatever you choose I hope it goes well.Whatever you do dont abort your baby.No matter what anybody says.

• From my own experience, I had a child at the age of 17. I kept my child but i see that i am still a child myself. I see myself going throught stages my mind is not mentally experienced. At the age of 14 is way too young 18 was way to young. If i were in this situation and came out pregnant at the age of 14. I would consider adoption there are so many qualified people that would take care of a child with warm open arms. At such an early age after taking pysicology classes i understand that your brain is not completely developed yet and at the age of 18 you will feel burned out. It would be nice to try to take care of a child at that age but no one can support themselves at this age.

• Just because you had a hard time haviing your baby at 17 doesnt mean others will.I know many mothers who had ther babies at 14,15,16 and were very ready for kids now they are older and they love having them, they arent burnt out at all.

If you want keep your baby keep it. Dont let others change your mind just because they had a hard time doesnt mean you will.I am not going to lie to you and tell you its easy.But once you get used to it,its not that bad its actually kind if fun.

I am now 18 I had my child when I was 15 it was the best thing that could of happened to me.Through everything my baby girl is always there for me I love it.I wouldnt change having my baby girl fir the world.When I found out I was pregnant I still went to school every day to the last month.When one month after she was born I went back to school.I took Reyna to a daycare at my school for women with chldren.I am now in my senior year.So lets just get one thing straight, a baby is not a reason to drop out of high school or a reason to let go of your dreams.I'm 16 and I have a lot of friends who have given birth at a young age. I dont think its wrong when the child is being treated right but if a mother is careless about her child then its wrong wether your 14 or 26. If u decide to keep the baby I know a school that will accept you with your baby while you finish your education.

• Hi im 14 and my girlfriend is 15 and she is pregnet i am really scared and freaking out.I dont think i am ready for a baby yetband neither is she.Still i think having a abortion or putting it up for adoption is wrong.Thats why were keeping the baby.I havent told my parents yet but i am eventually going to.well wish me luck.....bye.

• If I was pregnant I would talk to a person that knew me. It is the hugest decision you will ever have to make, and it shouldn't be made by us. Follow your heart, having a abay is a massive sacrifice to your life, but giving it up would be even bigger.

• Amanda, I am a 14 year old girl, who got pregnant at the age of 13 and on November 2,2004 i had my baby she as a girl and i named her Emma May and i did keep my baby. My parents wouldnt let me get abortion they told me if i opended my legs for it i was gonna keep her. But to awnser your question yes, you should keep your baby if you are pregnant. Emma is the best thing that has ever happended to me.

• well its up to you but i would keep her or him also if u dont want him or her i am willing to adopt
  
• I wish you all could hear what you were saying. I'm 20 years old, no kids, but if I were to have kids at 14, one, my mom would of been extremely upset with me, yeah, she would help take care of the baby, but that shouldn't be her job. She should almost be done raising her children, she shouldn't have to be a parent all over again... that would be why she's a grandparent. She should be able to spoil the baby rotten, take him/her out and buy the most annoying noise-makers, to send home to his/her parents to drive them nuts!

Talk to your parents about it, they really are more understanding than you think. Yes, they will probably blow up and be very irrational at first, but you are their child, and no matter what you do, they will always love you. Sometimes disapointed in you, but never ashamed. My mom always said we would be six feet under if we told her we were pregnant at that age, but she didn't mean it. No parent does. They will love that baby as much as they love their own.

But if you are only 14, you can't get a real job, support your child, and be there for your child all the time. It's not fair to have someone else(parents; babysitters; friends) watch YOUR kid all the time while you go out and have fun. Children are a gift from god when you are ready. You have the rest of your live to get married and have kids, but you should enjoy school, extracurricular activities, sports, dances, boyfriends, movies, and just hanging out with friends doing crazy teenage things that will drive your own parents up the wall right now. You are all still just a kid...

Granted, if you are pregnant, there is nothing really you can do, you basically have three choices, abortion, adoption, and keeping your baby. They are all personal decisions that shouldn't be taken lightly at this age, let alone any age, but IF and only IF you don't have the means to support your child or don't want your child(which in that case you probably shouldn't have been having sex), along with no help, there are many women who are happily married, financially set, and can't have children. You could probably find someone who will raise your child and give them a wonderful home, who will still let you be a big part of that childs life. Hopefully everything will turn out alright.

• Hey, my name is latisha and I had a baby when I was 13 going on 14.My new born baby is named Iyonia Qymesha she is 4months old now.For all you 14 year olds if you think you are grown enough to lay down in that bed and get pregnant then you are grown enough to take care of the responsibilites of that innocent baby.My baby daddy was there for me threw the whole pergnancy, and he still is.All you young girls please dont give your baby up for adoption please this is just my opinion but abortion is just like killing a baby,you would know that if you read the bible.I will tell you that love for a baby isnt the only thing that it would need.Me and my boyfriend live together in a nice apartment and we both are still in school and my big sister takes care of Iyonia while we are at school and work.I got a full scholarship to USC.All you 14 year olds if you are going to make a decision, make the right one and one you want regret in the long run!

• I think you should find out for real if you are pregnate. I know how it feels to be pregante I have been there most people think you shouldnt keep the baby. But you need to do what you think would be best for the baby. Because if you are pregante u need to realize its not going to be all about you anymore. You need to worry more about the baby then anything. So that is the only thing I can really tell you but I do wish you luck with whatever you choose.

• It seems sadly funny to me that the majority of these young girls, who recommend Amanda should keep her baby, cannot even spell or use punctuation correctly. The girl who claims she was "skipped up to the 12th grade" because she is "so smart" shocked me especially. A 14-year-old girl should not be raising a baby. The baby should be raised by a mother AND father who are educated and financially independent. I realize that to give up a child would be a heart-wrenching experience, but in the long run it will be better for the baby and the young mother.

• I have just turned 14 and well I think that if you think you are ready to be there for that child, take care of them when they are sick you will be a great mother.

Look you do what you think is best for the child,you,the father and you just do it, but remember that it is your decision and no one can do it for you.

• I belive in adoption. At 14 I met a lady who had an adopted son and that experience changed my life! That day was the day I decided that I would be the mother to kids not born of my womb, though if I ever got pregnant, I'd love the kids the same. I know when I get married, the man I love will have to respect this. As for as I know, I'm perfectly heathy and should have no problem conceiving, but there are just so many kids that need a home that I think it's a gift to be able to have them call you "mom." Any girl who is strong enough to put her child up for adoption, I admire you.

Also, I just want to point out that there is such a thing as "open adoption" where the biological parents can see and know the baby and keep in contact with them.

• hi my name is kim,im 14years old and i got pregnant when i was 13 going on 14,my boyfriend was 18 at the time,we both was so happy.he told all of his family they was very happy and supportive.i told my mom when i was about 4months pregnant she said she could tell i was pregnant but she was disapointed at me for the simple fact that i didnt tell her asap.We decided not to keep the baby because my boyfriend wanted to finish music and i wanted to finish school.We both regret that day so very much,but like i said im 14 now,im not like the regular 14 year olds i have a older mind i know what i want to do in life and im not a childish girl.its been about 6months since the abortion ill be 15 in 7 months and i might be pregnant again.And i would be keeping it.as long as you have supportive parents then dont worry about a thing ,keep ur child but still focus on school.
  
  
• 14 is WAY too young to be having sex. If I were your parents i would be SO mad! Good luck trying to raise the baby and having a good life afterwards. I work with kids like you... i see them everyday... they thought it would be cool to have sex and then they ended up pregnant and are miserable becuase they are wasting all of their time raising a child. this is the stupidest thing anyone can ever do!!!!

• I think that she should keep her baby just 4 the simple fact that she is the one who layed up and got pregnant so she should be ready for what ever the out come is. She made the mistake and she should not try to cover it up, and by covering it up is by killing it or putting it up adoption. Just keep the baby please the baby is inocent and it dont deserve to be killed or givin away i no that i dont know u but please keep the baby for me. And i speak so strong on the situation is because i am 15 and i am pregnant and i am going to keep my pretty lil child. She is a gift from above and i will cherish her with the world.

• well i am 15 right now and 6 months pregnant, i will turn 16 a month b4 the baby is born. it has been really hard to handle because a lot of stuff comes along with getting pregnant. i first told my mom becuz she was with me when i took the test, but the scariest part was telling my dad because i had always been daddy's little angel. But my mom helped me tell my dad. And at first my dad was dissapointed because i was so young and he thought he had taught me better but now he is really excited and cant wait for the baby to get here. I was 14 when i first had sex. and i had a few pregnancy scares while i was still 14, and i know that would of been harder on my parents. But i agree with a lot of you, i think that if u r gunna go out and have sex u need to be ready to handle the consequences. if u were to give that baby up or get an aboriton you wouldn't be able to forgive your self. you would always have the memory of giving that little baby up. and just think about what you would do if when that child was older they came and tried to find you and then they asked you why you gave them up. what would you tell them? that you were a iresponsible teenager out having sex when u werent ready for it? ya wouldnt that be fun. i think that a 14 year old is old enough to handle a baby if they r old enough to be out having sex.
  

• My name is Mitchell Mitchellson, and I am a mother myself. I had Mycaelah when I was 12 years old. I could remember back to the day it all happend. Me and my bf had been dating for about 6 months (he was 18) and he tought that I was 16, but I was only 11. When i was 11 I really did look 16 especially since I have 1 older sister who always took me with her to her parties and put a lot of make up on me so I looked old. Anyways, I went to his house one day, and well I wasnt into having sex, I didnt really know what it was but hey, I learned that night. It went on like that for like a month. Then he told me he didnt want to use a condom, and i sed it was okay. We agreed we would do this on my "17th b-day" I was really turning 12 and I got preagnant. I found out i was pregnant though till I was 5 months. and I started to get real fat. My mom asked me what was up so I told her what happened. She felt didgusted she was going to be a 34 year old gramma. Even thouhg it was bad she stuck behind me all the way and so did my daddy. I have a healthy lil' angel who I love and would never give up Im now 18 and she's in 1st grade. So if i could have a kid at 12, 14 is an better age, I think. After, I had my baby I got preagant again when I was 14 and had another Lil' girl, Channelle, again I was the youngest and the first one to get preagnant. At 16 and I had my last baby, a lil' boy named Edward Andr�, and all from the same guy. Now Im 18 and Im okay. I' am a size two in jeans and the doctor tells me I made really healthty babies so I think you should keep the baby, its for the best. I mean you have hard times but its all worth it when they say "I love you mommy" I got home studies ,as a teen and now I am a freshman in college Im studying graphic design. I know you'll be okay. Keep your baby.

• Amanda, you should keep the baby! I had my first baby when I was in the 7 th grade I had barely turned 12. Then I had another baby when I was 14. Then another one When I was 16 1/2 and then another one when I just last month. Im 18 now and i have 4 wonderful kinds i love keep the baby, ad you'll see its all worth-it. Well thats just my opinion. Just follow your heart!! ~~best wishes honey~~

• For all those that made comments along the lines of: they would keep the baby because they couldn't stand the thought of someone else calling their baby 'mommy'. That is one of the most selfish reasons that I have ever heard of for keeping a child. When you become a parent, your decisions should be based *only* on what�s best for your child. If you're not able to do that, then you're not ready to become a parent.

I stumbled onto this board by accident, and I am appalled at the attitudes of the majority of the people on here. Although, there have a few voices of reason, and thank you for being there! It seems that most of you really have no clue what you're getting into. You want to be treated like adults, but you're still thinking like children. The overwhelming attitude seems to be that you fully expect and feel that you should be rescued. That someone else (mainly the taxpayers) should foot the bill for your mistakes and your parents/family should spend the next 18 years helping you raise this child. It seems that very few feel any sense of responsibility, or any sense of gratitude for the help that you think you should receive.

I've always been a big believer that everyone makes mistakes and everyone deserves help and a second chance, but after my brief visit here, I've almost changed my mind.

• Is the father still with you? If he is, then I believe you can do it. It will be hard, and it will be a burden, but if you follow through, it will be the most amazing experience of your life. You will be so proud and so in love. Congratulations hun, and good luck with everything. I hope you stick through it, because you CAN do it!

• i believe that is ok for a 14 year old to keep their baby recently one of my good friends gave birth to a beautiful baby girl.. she is only 14.. she has had hard times but her mum completely understood as there was really nothing she could do. my friend hid the secret of her being pregnant for 5 months until her mum felt the baby kick. she loves her child so uch.. she is tiured and worn out like all mothers though. she has had to leave school for a year 9. i wish anyone out there all the best. you can do it just like my friend.

• hi everyone well when i was 13 i fell pregnet and my dad just huged me and said it will be ok . so when the time came to have my baby i was scered and i did not no what to do so my dad and his girlfriend and my dads mate all helped me and i got frow it fine now my lovey little boy is 6 months old and i would not tern the clock back and all babys are diffrint and if anyone says to you that you cant look afther the baby because your age then dont lissone it is not that hard to do . you become to love your babby and when you see your baby for the first time you know then that everythink will be ok .. yes ti may get hard at times but it will get better and you lerne how to lookafter your baby the wsy you whant and not what people tell you to do .
  

• I am 17 years old and I have a one year old who will be 2 in june '05' he is the best that has ever happened to me but let me tell you something it is extremely hard I am receiving help from quit a few people but it is still hard my mother my son's father his mother father and sister all help me financially I am in my last year of high school and I am hoping to attend nursing school to receive my BSN (bachelors of science and nursing) I am doing pretty well so it can be done so think really hard about your future it is your choice

• Hi ya im 14 years old and luckily im not pregnant but i truly think that you should keep your baby because if you do decide to give it up it will probally be the biggest mistake of your life and i think that the baby needs her/his real birth mother to be there to see hers/his first steps and words but think of how i will hurt the child when his adoptive mom tell the baby that they arnt really the real parent but whatever you fell like doing is totally up to you! do what your heart tells to do and dont let anyone pressure you into doing what you dont want to do!

• I think the only person who can trully answer this question is you. I think it all depends on the support system. When I was 14 my friend had a baby. The baby's grandmother actually became the mother. If your parents are supportive of keeping the baby that would be beneficial. But if you don't have a supportive family or the father isn't around, you should think about all of the hopeless couples who cannot have a child and would be wonderful parents. The bottom line is this: What kind of life are you willing to allow your child to have? That is the most important question to ask yourself. Giving a child up for adoption isn't a bad thing. Adopted children are special in that they are chosen. They deserve a good chance at life and whatever decision you make, please give that little one the best chances at life possible. Good luck!

• NO!!! I am the daughter, first born, to a 14 year old and it was living Hell. I am totally against abortion but the baby should not be raised by a 14 year old. A baby can not raise a baby. I move countless times, she had countless boyfriends, she did not and still does not have a sense of responsibilty and as for my 16 year old father, well lets just say he was and still is no where to be found. Please realize the stress put upon the child not the mother. I am not suggesting that all teen moms are that way, but being the child of a teenage mother, I am able to say its not a good thing. There was no love in the home, my brother was born 2 years later, so therefore she had 2 babys and 2 baby daddys. Neither would help to raise us. We barely had shoes, water, electricity, gas and moving became a way of our lives. To be sincere I still have things packed away for the fear of I may have to move all of a sudden, like we did as children. Sometimes in the middle of the night before the balif came.

If a teen needs love, go and get a dog. Do not have sex, you really do not appreciate the experience of it all until you are an adult anyway. And do not say that you are in love because love is something that can be over rated at any age. Just wait. Consider the long run and the child. That is something that you teens need to understand your selfish ways now will cost someone else alot in the long run, so please if you are pregnant, allow the child to be given up for adoption to someone who will cherish, teach, provide properly for the baby. One more thing if you are having sex, stop...You are so much more worth than being some little boys or big boys bouncing machine. Someone jumping up and down in you is not love, trust me, he does not love you more than that nut he is trying to get off. So in conclusion I would like to say teens are just that and enjoy it.

• I dont think its about the age it if ur grown up anough im 19 and have to girls i have one who is 2 years and is 3 in auguest and i have the other who is 9 months and is 1 in june im 20 in may so if u think u can handle being a mum and dont go doing things mum's dont do then yeh go for it girl but dont ditch your child be a good mum
  

• Well I have a small idea of how yu are feeling. I am 17 and pregnant. And I've decided to keep the baby but if you feel ou cannot handle the responsibility, I would suggest putting it up for adoption. It's rough at 14 becuase you are going through a whole new stage in your life where you should be enjoying things a teenager should. but if you feel you can take care of a baby and stay in school and everything, then by all means, keep it. it's all a personal choice and you are the only person who can make that decision.

• Hey i think you should keep your baby when you are 14 becouse i am 14 and i might be haveing a baby and i don't want one becouse when you are 14 you have your hole life ahead of you, you don't know what will happen in your future KEEP YOUR BABY BECOUSE YOU NEVER NO IF YOU WILL HAVE AOTHER !

• Edit: there's no point in tearing the girl down because of her mistake. She wants to know if she should keep the baby, not if she should have had sex.
  

• this talk of having a baby at 14 is non-sense. I am 16 and that thought has not even crossed my mind. no 14 year old should be think about a baby or even sex for that matter. Yes, i know people that have babies at a young age but they all regret it. Not to say they don't love there babies but they just wish they would have waited.I am not saying go and have an abortion (i am totally against it)i just believe that you are not mature enough and have better things to do than take care of a baby for the rest of your young life.The people writing are only giving you the positive side of pregnancy. They are not telling about the times when you want to go out and can't because you can not find a baby sitter or the times when you are at home taking care of your baby and your "babies daddy" is running around with some other girl. These are things to think about. I also think that if you thought you were grown enough to lay down you are grown enough to take care of the baby. If you are stable and have supporting parents thats good but if you have your baby be responsible. This is for the ones reading this:think about the facts that i mention earlier and just don't put yourself in this dilemma.

• Hi my names Lea i am a 15 years old with a 1 1/2 year old son his name is kaya christain. i got pregnant at 14 and it was the hardest dicision i had to make, such as asking questions 2 myself like should i keep him? should i have an abortion? should i give him up for adoption? or let someone have custody over him untill i am ready to get him back? well my decision was to keep him and i think you should keep yours. But still it is completley up 2 you.

kaya's daddy is still with us he is now 16 going on 17 and had stayed with us through the whole thing, he to was scared when i told him he was the first one i told. so we sat down and talked about pearenting and now we wouldn't give him up for anything we love him more than life it's self, and i am lucky cause i have a mom, and dad that help me along the way, and i have 2 older sister who both got pregnant at the age of 17 and i got pregnant younger thenn they did. I am still in school along with my boyfriend and working. i just got my drivers permitt and am taking the liscens test when i turn 16. I am telling you this because you shouldn't let a baby get in the way of finishing your life, although i did stay home from school for a month but caught up with all my credits that have fallen behind in that time. and i engourage you to do the same.

go out get a job, get an education. cause i did it and am still doing it my baby boy is the love of my life and the light of my world right along with my boyfriend and i am loving every moment of. The decision is entirley and competley up to you wether to keep it or not i am just saying consider it and consider a pleasure. i'm not going to tell you to keep it it will make your life eaiser cause it won't, it's not at all like a pet you have to care for it is a real breathing human being that will change your life forever even if you decide to give it away you wil always be somebodys mother i can promise you no matter what. take this from personal experience if you are not ready for a child you are not ready for sex. i wish you the best of luck with your new family love lea k mayr anders.

and believeme it will all be worth it when you here him/her sai i love you mommy or i love you daddy it almost made us cry when we said i love you kaya mommy and daddy always will

• hi i am a 15 year old mother my son is 6 months old. his name is crispen and he is the love of my life and i have no clue were i would be today if he wasnt in my life. his father is no longer a part of out lifes he was there the day crispen was born but we never saw him again after that. i am in the 10th grade and in home school so i can be home with him when i first found out i was pregnant questions poured in my head and my decision thank the lord was to keep him.

people say that having a baby is nothing new but their wrong it's everything new see the world lies to us ok. see i was a teen ager just like you wanting to go out and have a good time with my friends but one night me and my boyfriend got drunk and i got pregenant from then on my whole life changed. but my life is more complicated now that i have a baby in my life and i wouldn't change it for a fresh new life.

but now you are about to be a mother and i think you should keep it the decision is yours and i think you should make the choice you think is right for you not that choiceother people think you should make yeah sure you might develop a reputation but your son or daughter will always be there for you and you could always be there you him/her thats what i am dooing right now and loving it. now let me tell you something most people get pregnant cause they want someone to love, or they feel like they despratly want a child or it was unintetionally witch happens alot, i'm not going to lie ant tell you that having a baby will make your life easier case belive me it won't it just adds another to do list on to your life but this list lasts 18 years and you'l have hard times and you'll have stressful times and you'll even have the best times but you will always be the mother of a child no matter what your decison might be.

• i think you should keep your baby even if you think your not ready you can learn. i should know i am 14 and had a set of twins two beautiful baby boys with precious green eyes and i would never give them away. but it is hard but i am learning to cope with it evry day they teach me something new and every day i learn something even more about mothering. see being 14 and having 2 3 month old sons is hard work especially when u have 2 to care about but my mom helps me some and so does my best friend who had a baby when she was 14 she is 15 now and love s her little girl same as i love my little boys. but even though the decision is all yours i still think you should keep it but good luck and hope you make a choice that is right for you.

• i have a 6 year old son and a 2 year old daughter and another one on the way i am 19 and had my first one when i was 13 and i am keeping them when i first got pregnat i'm like damn i am only 13 i am just a kid and have no clue in how to raise one. see i don't want to go to a mommy and me class cause people will thin ofme and say wow a 13 year old being a mother that is like the stupidest thing a kid could ever do and i am really not up to gewtting the rep of a dumb ass or a slut cause it was my first time. but now i am 19 and living on my own with my fiancy in an up town apartment with my 2 wounderful kids and my sood to come son. and i think that you should really keep your baby, yeah it may seem hard to you at first but after all the hard work you put in to raising a little boy or little girl it will all be worth it belive me you will feel rewarded i promise i mean look at me i have two and another one on the way and still planning on having another one in future reference.and you may be a little young but hey i belive in you the question is do you well thanks for listening and i hope you the best of luck on your new baby bye

• hey if you feel that it is best to give up the baby, then do so.at least you are not killing it.there is a lot of family out there who could give it a good home

• Hey. I Just turned 15 years old i'm excpecting a baby boy.At first i thought about what I should do my family is really hard on the whole topic of "abortion". But I Changed my mined I thought about how hard it would be for me to kill a baby .My boyfriend just turned sixteen we've been going through hell since i got pregnant .We are planing on getting married soon. I really do care about him my oppinion on this is.Listen i am no one to jugde you or anything but i think you should keep the baby because if you thought you were old enough to have sex.You should be able to handle your respnsabilities one thing that is real important is that you should not worrie about everything that everyone is going to try to say about you cause you are the one that is going to take care of your baby. So keep your head up cause all baby is a mircal and no one can tell u diffrent.

• The abortion procedure is done with a saline acidic solution injected into the womb of the mother. the solution than rises the temperature of the fluids inside of the mothers womb and heats up the babies body. as this takes place, it also burns the baby while it is still alive. as the baby inhales the hot womb water polluted by the saline acid, the baby's innards are burned causing the heart to stop. 1 in every 300 abortion attempts fail, and the baby is prematurely born and burned. .ALIVE.

I am 13 years old and i think that if ur not able to care for the child at least give it up for adoption but make shore if u would like you be able to have a picture of ur son/daughter every now and then or if they wouldn�t mined maybe some visitation rights to tell then that in the adoption procedure. i don�t like the idea of abortion or adoption but if u have to let ur child be adopted let it be to a family that u have met and approve of .

• Hi my name is Stephanie.I am 13 years old and I think i might be pregnant with my 16 year old boyfriends baby.My answer to your question is to do whatever you think your ready to do.If your ready to have this baby then have it,but you do have to think of the consequences.It will be very hard on you and life will never be the same for you.But if you have it don't regret it because a baby can be a very wonderful blessing.If you decide to give it up make sure that thats what you really what you want to do.But please please please don't get and abortion...you will regret that.I have friends who have had them and they cry themselves to sleep at night because of all the pain and regret they have of an abortion.And don't think that your parents can make you have one because they can't!Its your baby and it's your choice what you want to do about it.Just keep your head up and do what you think your ready for.

• I'm pregnant!I'm 17 and the baby father is a dead beat already.I'm going to have to rise this baby on my own.Sweet heart don't ever think your alone,cuz your not.Every one makes mistakes,and everything happens for a reason.This is what you do Find a older responsible family memeber after you have your baby give them TEMPORARY custody of your baby, and when you get on your feet your baby will be with someone you know and trust(not outside your family)so you and your baby can grow together.You are a woman now make good christian decisions.your baby is a BLESSING from the almighty GOD above.It's your job starting now to give it all the love your capable of giving it.

• hi you 14 year old, i am the same age as you and i am pregnant too. at least i hope and pray that i am. you should keep your baby because later on you will regret the fact that you let the baby go. you need to find out how you are going to take care of your baby or it will get taken from you. i want to have a baby because i want someone to love and to give me the same amount of love back. but you need to look closer into clothing, feeding,and every thing else for the baby, thats what i am doing. if things dont work out like you thought they would start buying clothes, bottles, milk, alot of diapers {all sizes},and everything else you want for your baby while you are pregnant since you are young. thats is what i am going to do. SO KEEP YOUR BABY

• I thank you should do what u want. In the first place u shouldn't even been having sex at that age but like i said do what u want,but i think u should keep it since u brought it into this world

• i think if i fell pregnant at fourteen i would keep the baby... i would feel so bad knowing there is a living soul inside of me that im about to kill by having an abortion... as if someone could do that to another human being... i think it should be illegal to have an abortion... if girls at 14 years of age dont want babies they sholdnt be having sex... if they want to have sex but not get kids they should protect themselves and there sex partners to make sure this doesnt happen... i think someone is selfish if they gave up the babies opportunities for live

• hey im 15 and i think you should do what you feel is right. but just remember if you do decide to get rid of it you cant change it later on. you will have to live with the regret. personally i think you should keep the baby and then if it doesnt work out or you decide you dont want it you can either choose a family member to raise it for you or other options like fostering or adoption. Ya most probs asking why im being both sides here well im just giving you options cos its no good people telling you what to do its what you want to do. Maybe talk to the childs father about it or if you have an older sister or close friend if you didnt want to speak to your mum about it. Well i hope you make the right decision.
  

• ok let me tell you guys something i am 16 years old not pregnant but i have 2 olde sisters who are and not proud of thier mistake but love every moment they share with there babys they both got pregnant and had there kids at 17 and i was like wow this is a mistake i won't make i've seen what they have been through and now wishing praying hoping that i will make the right choice of getting pregnant at an appropriate age such as 20 atleast and heading down the right path feels great i mean i have a job and a car and stuff like that

but here my answer you should keep your baby yeah sure you'll have lots of fights with him/her as they growe older and you'll get stressed but you'll also have many many good times with them i for one if i did get preg at such a young age would have kept it and learned like i am learning now as i help with my 2 little nephews one of my nephews is 3 and my other one is 6 months and i love helping my sisters take care of them and yeah i still don't feel like i am ready for a child even though i have been through all these expirences with them me i love them but i'm not ready but i fully belive you should take on this task of raising your little one to be or you little one cause they will teach you something new as you will teach them i know i've seen it hapeen well i wish you the best of luck with you little one and hope he/she brings you joy and happieness through out the years

• i am 12 and pregnant i know i know real young i mean i am in 7 th grade and not proud of myslef but i am going to decide to keep it cause if i can help with my baby brother y can't i raise one i mean my mom will help me along with my dad and my 18 year old sister who has a 6 year old and she had a hard time cause she was 12 when she had hers but i know i will to and i know i will also have a good time learning well keep your baby

• It all really depends on your situation. I am 16 years old and am 6 weeks pregnant and I am keeping my baby. If you have the money to keep the baby, The support of someone to help you raise the baby ( A parent, relative or the babys father) and are mature then you should definatley have the baby. If you cannot provide for the baby then you should not have it, it would be unfair to the child. If you decide not to keep it, adobt, because abortiion is murder and it's disgusting. I hope you make a good decision. Good Luck.

• If the your education and welfare would be compromised, I suggest adoption. There are lots of couples who are unable to have kids who desperately want one. I don't think it would be an irresponsible choice, because these couples would love your child as their own. But, on the other hand, my cousin is 16 and she just had a beautiful baby girl. She plans to get married to the father next year. If you want to keep it, by all means keep it, but know that it will take up a lot of your attention. Also, I don't believe a child should be without a dad, but I don't know what your situation is.

• Hi i loved all of your stories i was reading them from advice becacuse i am pregnant and i am 15. i want to make sure that i will beable to support my child but from most of the stories it seems that all of you are doing really good if you have any advice for me could you email me on whether i should or shouldn't
  

• DO WHAT YOU FEEL IS RIGHT AS LONG AS ABORTION IS OUT OF THE QUESTION IT'S MUDER AND IS COMPLETLY MEAN ok my i am 14 my bestfriend in the whole world is too she is 14 as well i am having a girl and she is having aboy were due a week apart form eachother and we both made the decision on taking on the long journey ahead with aour two little one's i am lucky in a way cause my 17 year old bf is going to help me take care of it and so will my pearents. on the other han my bestfriend's 17 year old bf freaked out and left her on the spot but she is getting help from her single mom who raise 4 kids on her own so i really encourage you to keep your baby BUT push comes to shove give it up but DON'T KILL IT what i mean about giving it up is putting it up for adoption and help it find a home to people that can't have a baby and want one really bad well i gave you my answers so so all you 14 year olds out there who think your alone your not believe me i tohught the same thing untill my bestfriend told me she was preg and now we are figuring this out together well good luck and make good choices

• i am 14yrs old and i think i may be pregnant about 1month i'm not real sure but i think if you are ready for a baby you should keep it personally i would never give my baby away or never murder it me and my boyfriend planned for me to be pregnant we have everything sorted out money, school, everything for me and him and our baby so we are ready for this it may be hard as hell and no one will approve of it but its what we both want to do and we will get married before the baby comes he is 16yrs old and has a job and right now he could buy a house and car with the job he has i would say hopefully you know who the father is and if he will stay with you because that will help you and the baby out a lot.

Well, you heard my opinion on this i think you should keep the baby and not even give a thought to adoption or abortion you will regret both if you do either one i am always here if you want to talk about anything ok much love good luck hope you make the right choices on life and everything good wishes to your baby boy/girl lov ya gurl

• yes you should keep your baby i am 14 years old and 6 month's pregnate i was 13 when i got pregnate. keep it my baby's daddy is 24 years old an in jail keep you'r baby. it will be the love of your life. yes it's gonna be hard for me my baby's due in febuary but please keep you'r baby you'r not alone there are other's out there and i know how the mom thing go's i thought mine was gonna kill me but whene i went to the doctor and got my ultrasound and she seen she realized she was gonna be a grandma at 31

• Hi people, Im a 14 year old who is going through the same thing as many teenagers will during there lives. Im 16wks pregnant. Im wanting to give out a message to other "young mums"- as we r labled! Dont let anybody effect your decision as you will have to live with it through out your life. Make your decision on what you believe is right for you. People will have strong feelings about teenage mums but they will either have to accept it or they don't if you know what I mean. I chose to keep my baby when everyone was telling me not to.My mum was going on at me saying do the right thing, but I knew the right thing for me was not the right thing for her. Even my long term bf (have been with him a yr n half) wanted me to kill my own baby! But I trusted my own instincts. Everything has turned out well. My mum and boyfriend are really excited and mum bought my babys first pressent. She was wanting to be the first person to buy me a pressy 4 the lil one in my tummy.

• Hello ummm my name Marie n im 16....u ask uf u should keep ur baby at da age of 14...if u have a person that goin to help u rase da child yea sure why not...at da age of 14 its very hard 2 take care of a child by ur self...u have skool to thynk bout also if u keep this child and u kno u have no 1 beside u 2 help its going 2 b hard im not sayin its goin 2 b easy if u have sum 1 2 help u but its not goin 2 b has hard as doin it all alone. giving up a child dat u carried 4 9 months is not easy. hope u make da right decision good luck

• I am 17 years old and I just had my son on september the 2nd. When i first found out i was pregnant i told my mom i wanted to give the baby up for adoption. She wasn't too happy about it. She talked me into keeping him. I Decided to because she offered me her support. I thank her every day because my son is the most beautiful thing i've ever seen.The father is here and there. He visits with my son sometimes.If your parents offer to help or someone close to you does keep your child because its really amazing to be a mother.But if you cannot support this baby at all still don't give it up cause the state will help you if you are a single mother. You can get food, formula and I got something called medicaid and it takes care of doctor bills for you AND your baby.
  

• From a previous post: As others have said - I am the mother of teenage girls (one 17 & one 14). If one of mine came telling me they were pregnant I would gladly help them out Luckily I have done well so far -My 14 year old has a 6 month baby My 17 year old has a 5 year old,right now she is college bound, wanting to be a doctor! To give the baby up for adoption is a very irresponsible decision, and it is selfish, not thinking of yourself but what is best for the baby. A baby deserves to be with their mother. For the birth mother keeping the baby would be the hardest act of selflessness they could have, and the strongest amount of love too. I myself was raised by teen parents.I think they did a wonderful job. I myself had a baby at 12, I have also told my daughters, that if they think they are old enough to dance then they should be old enough to handle the responsiblity on their own. I am not a free ride, so therefore they better figure up what it would cost to keep the baby & live on their own. I actually did this just for fun estimate on what it would take to make it as a teen mother.It was really not too much especially if you get financial help from the state.

• hi i'm 14 yrs old i nearly got pregnant and if i was i would keep it no mattter wot but i'll always do my best in school and i think a 14 yr old should keep her baby .

• My best friend is pregnant. She had sex without a condom. She wants an abortion really badly, but dosnt have enough money. She is in a bind, and donest know waht to do. One day, she asked her mother a hypothetical question what she would do if my friend was pregnant. She said that she would make her move out, and not have any part of her life. She is only 14. She hasnt told the father of her child. She is so scard. I would like your prayers for her. Her name is Hallie and she isnt ready for a baby. I think that everyone should keep their babies. I am against abortions, but i think that putting a child up for adoption is just as bad, you are abandoning a child. Its wrong Thank you,
  

• Yes, I think that a fourteen year old girl should keep her baby, if she gets pregnant at that age. My girlfriend is now six weeks pregnant at the age of 17 and she has decided to keep the baby. I am 17.

• i think you shouldint keep the baby eventhough you had sex at such a young age now these days alot of young teenagers are you need a regular teenage life at this age and just remember having sex has consequences and think before you do your thing.

• My friend is only 12 and is pregnant! She has had sex from the age of 10/11!!! (year 6) She is not sure about what to do. I used to think that u should have the baby no matter what but now i am not so sure. Afterall it will be very hard.All i know is it takes two to make a baby so make sure you have sex with the right guy! I would keep it.
  

• Hiya im 15 and the thing i would like most is for me to have a baby so what if your not wid your boyfriend, so what you may of sleped with someone even though you go out wid someone else but the fact is that it doesn matter how old you are it matters that you make the right choice. Just fink in a couple of years time you will have your own baby gir or baby boy christmas will be spmethin to look forward to hey buy its your choice.

• I don't think that a 14 year old is responsible enough to care for a child.After all, they're nothing but a child themselves. It makes you wonder what kind of society we live in when children start having children. It's Ludicrous. I don't support Abortion, but I think it would be a stupid decision for a child to make, if they even should be making it. Alot of people argue that it can mature them, but on a technicality does a 14 year old really want to give up her freedom,in exchange for changing nappies? I bet there are numerous parents who's children get pregnant, are left to look after the baby, because,afterall, most teenagers are still in full time education,and giving that up would be a daft decision. If the 14 year old did decide to have the baby, maybe the best decision would be to give it up for Adotption, to an older couple that can't have children. Then the 14 year old can get on with their lives, and wait to have children when they're ready. Overall, I don't think that a 14 year old girl should even be sexually active, afterall,I thought it was illegal?

• As far as i can tell so far everyone that has left an answer is a female, whether she is speaking from experiance or what they think they would of done in this situation... Well, I am a 17 year old guy, and i made a mistake by gitting my 14 ye old GF pregnant. I know i should have been more responsible, but i wan't and there is nothing either of us could change...EVEN IF WE WANTED TO. She is now about 5 mnths along, and 11-22 (yesterday)we had her first sonogram. We had been talking about diffrent aptions for the baby's best intrest, and we both feel(along with both our families) we are ready to be parents. We are very happy together, and we have made plans for us to be as close together as possible. Abortion was never an option for either of us. We decided before she was pregnant that that wan't even a possibility. Adoption on the other hand was on our conversation list for a while. Then time went by and we've grown even closer together. I don't claim to know how to raise a kid, i know some of how to take care of onw though. But i have NO experiance in raising a kid as neither does she. But we are both ready to learn. The only thing that i wish i could change is that we had waited a little longer, seeing as shei stll so young and everything she is going to miss out on during her teenage years, but we've both reassured each other that we are there for one another and there are no regrets or second thoughts about us being together and raising out child, our miricale of life TOGETHER. Seeing that sonogram yesterday...gave me an undiscribable feeling that i will never forget. Yeah there's a chance that something could go wrong, but i know every thing will be fine......And i...we...couldn't be happier.

• Yes sweetheart you should keep your baby if its what you want. Your age makes no difference here. If you want this child and you know what your doing, then you keep it. You come first. Its ok to listen to your parents and other people but dont let anyone MAKE YOU give you this child if you want it. No matter what nasty things they say to you or anything else, you just do what you want ok?

• I have recently turned 15 and i have recently found out that im pregnant.When i found out i wos pregnant i wos so scared but my boyfriend wos there for me so it wasn't so bad.When it came to telling my mum i wos so scared of wot she would say but i knew i had to tell her cos me and my boyfriend discussed wot we would do and we wanted to keep the baby cos we are both against abortion and i couldn't stand the thought of my child calling someone else mummy so it seemed the right desicion to make.And now my parents know and his parents know and everything is fine and they are all happy about it.So if u asked me if a fourteen year old should keep her baby i would say definately if thats wot she wants.

• It's up to you and your partner. If you are able and willing to be a mother at such a young age then go ahead. But.. make sure your family supports you.

• no matter how old you are it could happen to anyone at anytime as long as you can give the baby a good life and you know that you can look after it just how a mother should i dont see anything wrong with it obviousely your life will be different to most other teenagers but you have people by you to help you through any problems you face!

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