What are the signs that your boyfriend is cheating on you?

What Is The Signs That Your Boyfriend Is Cheating:

Please don't be paranoid about your boyfriend cheating on you.

• "I'm hanging with "friends" tonight." Well don't get upset about that. he probably is hanging out with his friends. if you get upset about it, obviously YOU don't trust him maybe your suffocating him spending every day with him, and he just wants some "GUY" time.

• Weird phone calls on his phone." Who cares? it could have been a wrong number, it could have been a family member. It could have been anyone. It could have been a really good friend that he hasn't talked to forever and why were you looking through his phone calls anyway? That shows you don't trust him.

• "Phone calls from another girl" Maybe he was good friends with her before he even met you, and she's having some problems and need to talk to him. you need to learn to share. he's not an object he's your boyfriend. Just because another girl even talks to him doesn't make it that he's cheating on you. for god's sake you talk to other men.

• "If he asks you if you've been cheating on him" Doesn't mean that he's guilty about anything it just means he's just scared you would do that to him, and I mean you ask him if he's cheated on you. You're paranoid top and that could possibly mean that you cheated on him. You probably didn't but by being paranoid about him cheating other people can say you felt guilty about your cheating. If you don't trust the guy break up with him.

• "If he says I Love You" No guy says he loves you after he's cheated on you. Most guys just come out and say it. if they don't then they are not worth it. Obviously you mean the world to the man. You can always tell in his eyes if he really means it.

• "If your "sex" life changes." Doesn't mean he's been "prowling around" it just means he wants to try something new and different to shake things up a bit. Not keep things the same. He probably got the idea from one of his guy friends or watching porn, and about porn don't get upset about it, its not like he's going to go find these women and have sex with them. Its fine, a guy really likes it if you sit and watch porn with him anyways.

• "If he asks you to change your appearance" Obviously you have the personality he wants at least he's not worried about that. Who cares about appearance maybe he's trying to help you, make you look even hotter than you already are or maybe you told him you wanted to look like that, and he's helping you get into shape. Not only does he want you to look good for him, he wants you to feel good about yourself.

• "If he really is cheating on you." Its probably your fault. you probably did something to make him mad at you. I mean it's crossed my boyfriends mind when I really made him mad. You probably asked him so much and showed him that you didn't trust him and that just gives him a reason to. You need to trust your guy. Just because you have a "gut" feeling doesn't mean its true, it means you're jealous that you want to be with him and you don't want his friends there. Face it ladies. Some of you are just paranoid. And you have trust issues. Don't date if you don't trust.

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He may without just reason accuse you of cheating. He may change his routines without clarifying them to you. There are many signs, he may begin dressing up a bit more than usual for places he usually would go while dressed casually.

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In my experience, here are the signs:

• Asks you to change your appearance(to look like the other woman).

• Hangs around with female "friend" excessively in public, woman does not mind or notice jealousy. Cannot name who he was with, just says " some other people."

• Wants to try other sex styles or kisses differently, or is overly affectionate after hanging out with "friend."

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Well one sign is if he keeps blaming you on cheating (reverse psychology)and another is if he constantly asks you what's the matter like he has something up his sleeve or that he fears you might be catching on to him. Its OK for him to ask those questions as long as he's not doing it over and over.

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• He brought his ex- girlfriend to school they stayed late and then took her out to eat afterwards?

• He claims his ex still calls him??

• He has anonymous girl calling him who is claimed to be unattractive??

• He went to numerous parties without me???

• Came home late drunk???

• Claimed a girl was grabbing his hand upstairs to the bedroom but he refused???

• Claimed he almost kissed a girl but denied her???

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• When he acts different towards you

• When he does not pick up his phone when you are there,

• When his phones are off when you are there

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I thought the obvious signs would be girls calling, him spending too much time with friends or making excuses to go places. For me it was him wanting to spend too much time with me. His guilt got the better of him but he couldn't tell me the truth, so his way to hide the truth was by putting extra efforts into our relationship. When you begin to say things like "your relationship is too good to be true" or "he is the perfect man" you might want to step back and analyze and examine your relationship. I thought I had the fairy tale relationship and marriage 'til my world collapsed on top of me...and it hurt.

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Here are a few signs:

• He claims to be working overtime yet there is no extra money to show for it.

• He either starts being critical of you or goes the other way and is more affectionate

• There are times that you don't know where he is and he uses excuses like "it took three hours to get home because the trains were late"

• Your sex life changes.

• Your gut feeling is usually enough- if you really feel his cheating then he probably is.

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He stops caring about you and does not even bother calling you the next day, even if he knows that he got you upset the night before.

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I think that one sign of cheating is that he wants to go out every night to the club. I'm dating a 19 yr. old and he constantly wants to go to the bars and hang out with his " friends": I think that he is out doing something else, but when your guy comes home and he is really horny, then you know something is up. I've had that problem before and he was cheating, so beware girls. They aren't all honest!

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• When a guy says that he is just "friends" with his ex, don't trust him. if the ex is still hanging around and they are still doing stuff together you know something is up.

• If he is always questioning you: where have you been? who are you with? and just thinking you are cheating then most likely he is the one creeping.

• If he cant find the time to call you anymore then there is also a problem and he just doesn't give a damn about you

• If he is always hanging out with "friends"

• If he says stuff like "oh, was that your boyfriend?" and just keeps saying that word when you say something about your friend, and he says that is your boyfriend.... Basically being overly jealous because he's worried that you're cheating, because he knows that he is most of the time.

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When he says "oh see when you just flicked your hair back like that (for example not just this anything I suppose) you looked exactly like so and so"-- this sucks especially if you later found out that they were going out with you to get to the person you looks like when you "flick your hair back like that". Don't let your girlfriends hang around with ex boyfriends. See if it was any other girl it would maybe be fine but sometimes a guy thinks he is over her then goes with you then she starts on him and he then pretends to realise just so he doesn't feel mad but still gets some that it was really her he wanted all along. Sad i know, but true.

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The tell tale sign would be sex. If the sex changes up, you know he's been on the prowl. We all know that comfort in a relationship can have its affects on a sexual relationship and we all get a little lazy sometimes, but when your guy is doing 'stuff' that you only see in 'those' movies, you know he ain't watching' the stuff, he's practicing it on a friend.

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The one major sign that your "significant other" is cheating on you is the fact that you even had to ask that question in the first place. Your gut feeling also tells a lot.

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The signs that your boyfriend is cheating on you is that he stops calling you as frequently as he used to, when he sends text messages he doesn't include any kisses anymore, he stops texting you nice messages, he says he is going to call you then doesn't, and that happens all the time, you see suspect messages in his phone from a so called 'friend' and then he has the cheek to say it ain't his fault who sends him messages. He can't be bothered to come and see you or tells you that he is too busy to make arrangements with you, trust me if he cared for you then he wouldn't be too busy for you, ever. His attitude changes towards you and he doesn't stay around as long because he is 'tired'.

It hurts bad and you can't stop thinking of him and phoning him, but that makes it worse because then you become overbearing on him, which makes him even more difficult and you become possessive. Just step back and either let him run back to you or kick him to the curb because there is probably someone else better looking and nicer than him not too far away.

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He is always telling you he loves you, he keeps his phone in his pocket and when you ask to use it he says "well I never go on your phone". He starts hanging with his ex and denies it. His friends start saying stuff to you that you don't know if they are telling the truth (but not always the case). He keeps asking you if you have cheated to cover up for himself to make you sound like you have done something wrong and making you a type of scapegoat.

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My boyfriend doesn't look at me, he doesn't touch me, and he barely talks to me anymore, and when he does he's mad at me. He talks to his ex more then he does to me, and he hangs out with her all the time. When I come home after hanging out with my friends, there's always a wash cloth in the sink and it's not from him cleaning his face. Trust your own gut feeling.

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He says he has a business meeting, but does not know where it is or what it is about, says he has to stay overnight for this so called business trip because there is a meeting in the morning, but does not know the name of the hotel and his phone is shut off from 11pm to 11am the next day. locks his phone so i can not see who call ands texts him and he gets text messages all throughout the day. Works out with a female "friend" every day , yet does not want you to meet this friend. Goes out with his "boys" and does not come home till 4 am. Says he has to work late. says he was late coming home because he stopped to have a drink with "co-workers"(called the restaurant and he was there with a woman).found condoms in his pocket, which he says he found them in his car and was putting them away( keeps some in a safe, I went into the safe and also found some missing and when i asked him he does not know where they went(we do not use condoms) found receipts from restaurants that I was not did not go to with him and the big one... our sex life isn't good. He used to be all into me, massages..but now says he is too tired and when we do have sex it is nothing like it used to be and I do all the work. Every time I ask him about where he has been his answer is stop questioning me, you do not tell me what to do and I do not have to tell you what I do. I will do what I want and what makes me happy. I have no solid proof, but these clues and my gut instinct is enough.

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I have been cheated on by many men because I didn't watch out for these kind of things and now the boyfriend I have is the sweetest man in the world but I still believe he's cheating because I'm so used to it in my relationships. If you've been cheated on in the past and your blaming your new boyfriend of cheating be careful because you might just loose this good guy, but anyway here are the signs I missed.

• Weird numbers calling his phone. (We all know that guys can be sneaky though and delete those numbers before you see his phone)

• Weird abnormal behavior towards you ex. Saying he's too busy to come over, he has lots of things to do, not calling when he says hes going to (my boyfriend is in a band and if your boyfriend is this way it may happen so don't worry there not all jerks.)

• He comes over after a long week of school/work whatever and all he wants to do is sleep. The sex is no longer passionate almost like hes only doing it because you wanted him too. Hes no longer in the mood to have sex and you notice weird behavior when hes gone again

• When you ask him about cheating he just kind of laughs and jokes around a bit but you act completely serious so he knows your not joking, he says I was just kidding I would never cheat on you, I really don't believe that. Of course your gut feeling is usually correct so ask him about it and if he still persists to act oddly dig a little deeper, I know you may think it's wrong but search through his things ladies.

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My boyfriend has cheated on me before and he has many girlfriends one he dated for two years and the girl he cheated on me was his brothers girlfriends sister that is very cold and every time I see him out side the school bus he has that girl Savanna and yesterday she told him to hold her poster and he held it and if your asking me they looked like they were walking a little too close and I have a gut felling that something is up but I don't know what Oh I didn't mention he also looks at other girls in front of me. What do I do

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I just broke-up up with my boyfriend a few weeks ago because I found out he was cheating. All I thought our relationship was perfect and we're very happy. He was really caring and thoughtful. He even made friends w/ my sisters, cousins and friends. He showed he was jealous and possessive of me. He even monitored my schedule and didn't want me to mingle or make friends with other men. I thought he's doing it because he really loves me and he doesn't want any man to take me away from him. But, these are all not true. During the last few weeks before I found out the truth, I noticed that he had a lot of excuses for me. He would always say he's tired and didn't get enough sleep that's why he can't come to our dates. He didn't care when I'm upset and he'd just said I'm overacting. One more thing, he never gave extra time w/ me, like he would say he gets too tired to stay for another hour. Before, he always borrowed my cellphone and read all the messages in my inbox and checked my call register and I did the same thing w/ him which was fine for us. But, lately he never did that anymore. Sometimes he tends to leave his phone at home saying he forgot it. When my gut feeling started telling me something is not right, I tried asking him some questions which he answered with sincerity (which I thought) that made me feel okay. He said I'm the only girl he loves and I should not think of anything bad. But still it didn't stop me from there because my gut felling keeps on pushing me there's something wrong going on, I tried searching for more when he started telling lies. He still tried to deny it but when the time came I can't stand it anymore I really took his cellphone and sure enough I found out the truth - He has been cheating on me ever since. This I didn't know since he'd been a good boyfriend to me. Now, beware girls...Just to share with you what I knew... Trust your gut feeling.

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When he leaves home around 7pm to go hang out with his friends and doesn't come back until damn near 6am the next day, when he no longer has an interest in sex, yet keeps getting refills for Cialis(a pill that has the same functions as Viagra), when you try to initiate sex with him and he either pulls away or grabs your hand to keep you from touching him, when out of the blue he insinuates and accuses you of messing around with someone else, even though you are being faithful to him, when his ex girlfriend(treacherous bitch)calls and leaves a suggestive message on the answering machine, when he's overly generous with money/gifts out of nowhere (the cause is guilt), when you find a pair of thong panties mixed in your laundry that couldn't possibly be yours because it's two sizes too small, and when your gut instinct tells you so that's how you know your boyfriend is cheating on you. boyfriend asks you to change your appearance...he starts to change his and is nice and tidy and shaved all the time....he takes 3 hours to go to the corner store for smokes or a six pack......puts blame on you for no reason and accuses you of cheating.....becomes mean to you...hides, shuts off, doesn't answer or leaves phone on vibrate....goes out more often and makes new friends to hang out with that he wont let you get close to or befriend....when you find weird package receipt in your mail and you Google the name of the company and find they make cialis style medicines...find condoms when you don't use them with him....when you check out his cell bill on the net (you need his password for this) and find out every number on the bill..you white page the numbers and find out most are woman....when you listen to voice mails that ask if they are still on for the night...lots of blocked calls on his cell...sex is different and he wants to try out really disgusting things you wouldn't do even if you were married for twenty years....he gets paid on Friday...hasn't spent any on you...has no bills and hes broke by Sunday night...says your over exaggerating if you tell him your sick and says your looking for sympathy....and last but not least...your stomach feels so nauseating and sick all the time worrying if he is or not...remember this...almost all the time...once a cheat always a cheat...true love means respect and trust...so he probably never loved you or fell out of love to begin with if he did this to you... by the way..i did forget something really important...your boyfriend may or may not drink...but this is a good way to get him and him not even know it...get him while he is sleeping...wait til hes in a good sleep..then give him a couple little kisses...but don't completely wake him...then ask him...hey baby...do you love me?...whats my name? it may take two or three times to get an answer, after all hes pretty much still sleeping...but if he answers you and says Betty..but your name is sue...well...need i say more?....this i learned from experience....let a sleeping dog lie....a sleeping dog does lay...doesn't LIE and so does a drunk.. and remember when you use to go over to his house and tidy up...now you're asked why you got to be so nosy...or when you found those little bitty bikini pantie's...stuffed in the toolbox in his toolbox drawer in the shop or garage...or stuff stuffed in the drop ceiling...or phone numbers tucked under the insole of those stinky shoes..or in the little flap inside his baseball cap? or under the drawer liners in his toolbox..or high up on the kitchen cabinets...or the glove box of the car....and don't bypass anything when you're looking...I remember saying...nah it won't be in that little box in the toolbox....and searched the whole thing through...then went back to it as a last resort and that's where it was along....cheating men are pretty stupid..and usually rushed to find a hiding spot...the longer you stay with the cheat..the more of a chance you'll end up with an STD and for those who don't understand that means you you can pick up a sexually transmitted disease!

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If he doesn't appear interested in you or seems to have the fun he use to have with you. If he misses dates and leaves you stranded. If he keeps going out "with the boys", but you really don't know where he is. If he doesn't take you with his friends or take you dancing (where in the "in" clubs are) or doesn't even take you to a movie. If he forgets your birthday and when he finds out it is he doesn't apologize and try to make up for it. He doesn't call you as often or at all. It seems you are always calling him or hunting him down. If you have a sexual relationship he leaves shortly after you have without an explanation.

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When your boyfriend is having "late nights" with his friends there is a chance he is cheating on you. It doesnt mean you don't trust him your questioning him... for real. who made this website??? It's not too substantial. People do have trust problems... but you can't say "yeah... your not the one that should be trusted" or "your parinod" OK it happens. I don't care what any of you Internet surfers say. Men are made to please women and women are meant to please men. If you dont please one another then what the heck is the point in being together? "I dont want to be alone" that's a a pretty pathetic way to live life. You were alone until you were what ... 12-13? Maybe that's the dating age now a days. Let me explain... you make it in this world for 12-13 years with out a man... what makes you think you need one now and the sex.. please I hear about it every day. and this is coming from a cheater... "hun... why do you think I'm always cheating on you" well... I was a cheater before I got with you and that's the same way I acted. So ladies... don't get on lame websites and try to fix things by other peoples comments. You know your man better so watch him, talk to him, or even her. Not everyone is a cheater but then again you may never know until you find out your self.

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When someone comes onto a website you can bet your butt they already know (gut instinct) their partner is cheating on them and they are looking for varification. While men use to be in the top 10 for cheating, women are running a close second now, so no one is just bashing the men and including women, but I do believe this question mentioned boyfriend. Young women should be more independent and not fused at the hip with their boyfriend (get a life so to speak) and if giving their partner respect and they aren't getting it back and their partner refuses to communicate then kick 'em to the curb! Life is too short to waste on someone like this.

Yes, there are some women who are paranoid or jealous and aren't independent enough to have their own life, but nine chances out of ten you can bet if someone is asking they have good reason to believe their partner is cheating.

The divorce rate is high, as is cheating in relationships. Bottom line, life isn't as tidy as one would like to make it appear and when we post we tell people to communicate with their partner, but in all honesty do you really feel that a person cheating is going say 'oh yeah, I was seeing Adrian behind your back!' Seldom happens.

No one likes to feel passed over like a piece of garbage and certainly doesn't like to be used and abused. It hurts and it's demoralizing. When a boyfriend isn't treating their girlfriend with the respect she is giving him there is something wrong and that's where communication is needed or move on.

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My Boyfriend keeps texting this girl called Kellie who is 14, my boyfriend is 15 and I am 16. Hes always texting her and seems to be more affectionate towards her. Tho they have never met. He said to her on msn you are next on my shagging list. N she also said he said he has shagged 4/5 people but when i confronted him he said shes lying i never sais that to her. So i said okay. When i look on his phone well first i need to get hold of it which is hard i need to pick pocket him kind of thing. When i look on there theres always texts from this Kellie person. When we were on our way home oneday he had a go at me saying i had cheated on him, and he beat me up. I never ever cheated on him and wouldn't because i love him so much. Then the next day he was joking about this Kellie girl sending him pictures, so i started to get really upset and he aww no i havnt really. So tha\t night when he went to go downstairs for his dinner i looked on his computer and i looked in his recieved files and what was there two pictures of Kellie, one of her stood posing in her bra and thong and another of ger boobs hanging out. I aklmost had a pinic attack. Im still with him tho and when ever i say your dumped were finished get out of my life i burst out crying and he hugs me and says its okay, im sorry and everything. Some one tell me what to do please.

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Ask yourself what is your heart telling you? If you read your post, and think about everything that has happened with him, you know the answer. Trust me, I know how hard it is to leave a person.. especially when you love them with all your heart, even if they don't love you back like that. You want so bad to believe them and think that things will get better.. but guess what.. we can't change anyone but ourselves! You are 16, & shouldn't have to be worried about if your boyfriend is cheating on you or not. This is the time to be focused on your life and what you want to do.. forget boys.. yes, I know, easier said than done & that doesn't mean that you shouldn't have a companion (boyfriend).. but don't worry about getting attached and thinking about marriage and all that.. just focus on where your life is going and what you want to do with it... and sweetheart, I know it is hard to hear & believe (especially when they say sorry and all that), but he is not worth it if he has ever put his hands on you, or even made a threat to. There are plenty of good guys out there who'd be happy to take his place & be with you.. you just have to gather every bit of strength you have & stick with your decision.. it is easier if you have friends around to help you and talk about it.. & just keep reminding yourself of all the stress he's put you through & what you have found out & how it made you feel.. you shouldn't go through life feeling that way! especially at 16.. & it is OK to cry! just don't turn back.. it gets better with time! you could even write things down on paper to help you out.. and check out other hot guys and after you tell him you're done, no one can make you talk to him again .. you can block him out.. because you know that he is going to try his hardest to keep a good girl like you around (even though he doesn't deserve you!) I know it seems like your world is ending & you aren't sure how you can do it because you love him so much, but trust me... you will make it! ) just take it one day at a time and eat lots of chocolate!

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If he has a mobile phone then put your number in some of his friends or someone who you think he is cheating on contact. Then you will get all the messages he is sending to his other partner and doing it this way you should realise and catch him out.

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Honestly my boyfriend pretty much cheated on me... Here's how i found out... We've been dating for over a year and we spend everynight woth eachother... well one night i woke up and he was gone, well he was upstaris asleep, and had a new text on his phone... so what ne1 would do, i read it.. it was from some girl named jen, and he asked and then begged to see her tits, .. so i punched him in the ribbs... we finnaly got back together but now I have control over his phone and everything he does at least untill i can trust him... GIRLS NEVER TRUST YOUR MAN, KEEP HIM ON A LEASH.

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First to comment on the above answer, if you HAVE to have full control of your boyfriend's cell phone, etc... that does not mean you can trust him. It sounds like a rocky relationship.

You can install Spyware on a computer that he uses to track emails, IMs, and websites visites. If you see bad things... he might be cheating.

Check on www.cheaterzzz.com to see if he is suspected as being a cheated by anyone else. Add him if you believe that he really is - and you will be kept in the loop. If others suspect him... he might be cheating.

Install or hide a GPS in his vehicle so that you can see where he goes. If he is going to random girls' houses... he might be cheating.

Ask a friend of his whom you think you can trust if everything is okay. If it's not okay... he might be cheating.

NOTE: All of these methods involve a GREAT deal of distrust and should only be done as a last resort.

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