What do you do when boyfriends mother is rude and in your business?

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Take it from someone who knows. This will never change. Mothers and their sons are complicated

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Not all mothers and sons have complicated relationships. Maybe your boyfriend's mother doesn't intend to be rude or "in your business", and maybe she doesn't realize you take it that way. Quite often a son's girlfriend or wife may feel she has to be 'in competition' with the mother for the son's affection and/or attention. After all, it is the mother that has raised and loved her son from the day he was born, so she may find it difficult to relinquish being the most important female in his life. Try being patient with her and reassure her that your relationship with her son is not a competition. Sometimes, a mother may try to give advice in her attempts to help, and the girl friend or wife takes it as the mother being nosey or bossy. The mother is the one who has advised the son his whole life as he was growing up, and may find it hard to 'pass the baton' to another woman. Try being more tolerant and patient, and try to become friends with her. If she continues to be rude and nosey, then tell her calmly and politely, that while you appreciate her concern, you prefer to maintain your privacy. But don't ever make your boyfriend feel he has to choose between you and his mother. If you do, then you may win the battle, but will lose the war because your boyfriend could end up resenting you and blaming you for making him choose.

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