What does it mean when a wife has sex with someone and does not feel bad about it at all?

• It means your marriage is over, sad but true, the minute she had thoughts of cheating it was over. You should not be with someone who would disrespect what you have together.

• This is coming from a perspective of a women that has slept with other people than her husband and not felt bad about it. You see we do care about the person we are with, but sometimes you have to have a little fun, and having the same kind of sex every night with the same person over and over... well it gets a little boring. If you are the husband being cheated on, try to make sex more interesting and fun for your wife and she would probably be less likely to cheat. So spark up that old flame you once had. Of course if you are the wife doing the cheating and not feeling bad, that's OK, as long as you enjoyed the time you had with your male mistress. But you shouldn't let it become a regular thing because in the long run it WILL hurt you in more ways than you may expect.

• If your cheating it is because your not communicating in bed your needs to each other. By cheating you risk being infected with a serious STD and passing it to your spouse and this is covert murder if it's AIDS. If you want to swing then swing.. If you want a great marriage...Communicate as best friends...it works!

• Maybe she is simply secure in her sexuality and/or morality, and is able to separate her feelings between her spouse and her lover(s).

• No, I would say she is a selfish, inconsiderate, immature, unfaithful woman that had a abnormal or dysfunctional childhood and parents or lack of parents that had the same moral values. It is sad. I have 3 daughters, 8,3,2. My wife left me 3 months ago and of course took my girls with her despite my objections. She called cops on me etc.... I found out she is most likely having a affair with her co-worker (Boss) yesterday. She had been meeting him at the park and ride and having sex in the back of our family Van.... I only found this out by stashing a voice recorder in the van after unexplained cell #'s etc.... Lack of her showing sexual intimacy with me was the main reason that I started thinking of her cheating. Let me tell you, be ready for hearing the worst when you have no other options or when your wife just wont fess up/// My wife is denying it now., when cornered her after a couple of days of telling her I know she is cheating I slipped it in the car CD player and she said she was only masturbating and that I am psycho... losing it... you know the deal.... Only now am I really accepting that it is true. Why won't she just be honest.. it would be easier for me, and our 3 young girls. Bottom line is God's will for married people is to be faithful always and when you make mistakes and things get rough to not quit. Every good marriage out there will always have this key quality. I will continue to be a stander for God until my wife files for divorce or we are reconciled. How I am going to get over this and trust her again I do not know... Its a choice guys. Make it.

• I've been through two marriages...both while I was protecting this Country in the Marines (10 years). Cheated on me numerous times (both of them. I let it go; forgave them and they did it again. There's a saying my father and mother used to say..." You can forget what people say and do, but you can never forget how people make 'You feel'. When any married partner cheats you will never trust again and they will get defensive, minimize, justify, and act like a child with their hand in a cookie jar. The fear of starting over and facing what they did and seeking self improvement is too far reaching for most people...sad but true...move on ... let God take care of them ( or who ever their higher power is.) They can never be trusted again and it's always their in the back of your mind, second guessing, mistrust etc...its hard to move on, but harder when they build up a secret cash stash like a terrorist and hit you when you least expect it. If she/he cheats its because they are poor communicators and immature, and do not respect their mate. You can die from aids and the children suffer terribly. So why do it; start talking and sharing the mutual vulnerabilities of life because it's easier and more fun!

• They cheat because they cant be with only one man. They are probably sick (nymphomaniac)

• It means she's not worth being married too! because she'll never admit to it.

• When a wife has sex with someone, you find out and she is indifferent and doesn't feel bad about it ..well I believe that means in the past she has considered you a man who has no backbone and who doesn't demand respect for himself. Women need their men to be strong. there really can be no other reason unless she is mentally challenged or if you have had hurtful affairs and she's beyond caring.

• I am a women that has cheated while in a relationship and did not feel bad about it, I was in a bad relationship, I wanted to leave the relationship yet he physically and emotionally abused me and I told him I wanted out and he said if I left that he would kill himself. I remember that once he told me that if I was to ever cheat he would leave me, so I cheated and then he left me. I was so happy that I got out of that relationship, but I didn't feel I had a choice because I didn't want him to hurt himself yet I did not want to stay in that relationship

• It is not for some deep psychological reason or anything you have done. This woman is just a cheap tramp who only cares about her pleasure and cannot care for anyone (including any children) other than herself. Get rid of her, take any children with you, and goodbye to bad rubbish. Let her live in the gutter she desires to be in.

• There are no real reasons, but we are human. If a person has an affair once and realizes the mistake and talks it over with their partner and rectifies the problem then it could work. However, I'm against cheating no matter how tough the road is. When you take a oath to be true to each other then you should stick to it! I was cheated on by my first husband and it hurts! I forgave him for it, but also served him with divorce papers and moved on. I have now been married for 35 years to a wonderful man. Of course marriage isn't a bowl of cherries and we've had our arguments and there were times when I felt like packing my bags and leaving no forwarding address, but not once did I take the so-called easy way out as far as cheating. If I felt that unhappy in my marriage I'd divorce and would be free to do as I pleased. Bored! Ha! Let me guess .. married approx. 5 - 10 years! Of course marriage can get boring just like your job or anything you have to do every single day of your life. "Don't put the blame on Mame!" It takes two to spice up a marriage. Communication is more important than sex. If you communicate then you can fix almost anything whether it pains you to do so or not. As far as the woman who was abused physically and mentally who do you think you are kidding? I volunteer at a Women's Abuse Center and if he was that abusive you wouldn't even breath the word "cheat." Abusers like total control and by cheating it would send most abusive men (or women) into a rage and then you really have something to worry about. Abusive people think their victims are theirs to do with as they please and God help the man/woman that comes between that thought. He could have been verbally abusive and you felt lonely, but face it, you chickened out and tried to take the easy way out. My first husband was verbally abusive at first, then physically and I managed to nail his hide to the wall, divorce him and move on without cheating. I'd rather die trying to get away from someone like that then cheat. In fact, even if cheating had entered my mind at that time I would have been terrified of being caught by him because he would have been the type to take out not just myself but the guy I was with. I do things honest and clean. Don't like the marriage after trying your best then get a divorce! I am really getting sick of hearing about "sex and more sex" being the reason for cheating. You'd think there was a special Olympics going on. Ever since the 60s with "free love" and all that jazz morality has slid down to zero! Of course sex is an important part of any relationship, but it's not the heart of the relationship ... communication along with trust, honesty and devotion and that each of you knows you can count on each other 100%. You shouldn't be just lovers you should be each others best friend. As far as the young man serving his country I do feel badly, and all I can say is pick women a little more carefully. There are a lot of women out there that have it together and will stand by their man! Keep trying because I did and wound up with a great mate!

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